Excuses - We all have them

And they are all ego [old, unconscious habits of thinking and reacting], and as such can be released as you choose to stop using them as a crutch and take responsibility for your own lifes creations. All of the excuses below can give you a wake-up call, can show you what you dont want, and therefore wake you up to what you do want.


Courtesy and generosity of spirit costs you nothing but gains you everything.
Allow the full essence of who you are (source) to flow through you.


Anger: Is resistance. Fear of the unknown which is an illusion. It is self righteousness, feeling indignant, dumping on people who can't fight back. Self responsibility is about non-reaction, no anger is uncontrollable, saying that it is, is just an excuse to keep doing it because it makes you feel powerful. People on the receiving end don't think you are powerful, they don't think any good thoughts about you. Anger is a misguided cry for love and the need for protection.

Aggression: Aggression, acting tough, and having a short fuse is transparent in its obvious need to have a place to hide from feelings. There is nothing tough about aggression it ruins friendships, marriages and spoils the other persons day. Aggression is not entertaining. Aggression does not have true strength, its hollow and obvious. There is real strength in patience, non-reaction and inner peace.

Arrogance: Being pompous or arrogant is about believing you are better than, and above certain other people. It is actually a barely veiled need for acceptance, approval and needing to be noticed. It is a fear because deep down you think you are not good enough.

Arguing: We all have an opinion but some people like to disagree or argue about everything. This is sad it is a need to be heard so they dont disappear completely. Allow others to have an opinion, be interested even if you dont agree, really listen, then voice your opinion quietly, if others disagree let them. This will gain you friends, people will like to be around you. You will let go of fear and gain more self love. You wont lose anything if you are not right all the time.

Blame: What ever happened in your life, whoever was involved, how your life is now - this is your creation, and your life is your responsibility. Getting this fact will free you of mind numbing illusion and fill your heart with joy.

Boredom: Is about self responsibility, what do you want and how do you want to feel. Put the energy out there, get off the couch and follow your intuition. From small things (thoughts) big things grow.

Being Late: If you are always late it is insulting, it is like saying the person or people you are meeting dont deserve respect. It is also a need to draw attention to yourself, you dont care if it is positive or negative you just need attention. Saying I am always late is just an excuse that you can change.

Being Right: People who have to always be right are annoying to be around, its arrogant. You will lose nothing by allowing others to have an opinion even if you disagree with it, you may even gain some friends. Everyone has a right to their own opinion.

Cruelty: Remember this page is about excuses to stay in lower consciousness. If you are reading this you are not unconscious. There is no room in an evolved soul for malice, nastiness, harm or spite.

Control: You may get away with being a control freak with your children while they are little, but they will grow up and go their own way. You may be able to control people if you are the boss but the people who smile at you wont be your friends. Weak or lazy people may let you control them so they dont have to be responsible for their own lives as you will fix it. Controllers end up alone because they dont make real friends. Control is only seeing one side. Control is about not looking within and not wanting to feel empty, its about needing to allow yourself to appear vulnerable at times and to be real not a fantasy super hero.

Cant say NO: You are not here to save the world, you dont need to give everyone your time for free, you dont owe anyone. You can say no and still be a lovely person. Respect and care for your health and happiness first. Create balance. If you allow others to manipulate you and your time they will just keep doing it. Be in your own power and blossom in that state of grace. What you put out comes back, if you think you are a doormat so will everyone else. On the flip side it is a need for approval.

Depression: Is compensation, it keeps you stuck in a self created safety zone. It drains you and takes the colour out of your world as it is inner struggle.

Drama: Is ego acting out to get attention, no matter if the attention is positive or negative. It is a way to feel alive but takes you nowhere, it is illusion. And it ticks people off more than you can imagine as it is so transparent.

Dishonesty: It always pays to be honest, what you give out comes back to you. Most people lie as an unconscious habit and a way of life. People see though common lies and it's insulting, how can you or why would you trust that person. People often lie to not hurt another persons feelings, pick something honest to say rather than being dishonest. If you are honest people feel it and respect you, try it.

Distrust: If you front someone with an air of distrust you are saying to them you are a liar and I dont even know you. What you put out you will attract, if you believe everyone is out to get you, rip you off or hurt you then you will attract those experiences. Trusting is not the same as gullibility, we all have free will. Pause and make your own decisions based on balanced intuition, logic and common sense. Distrust is ego, it is a way to dramatize your life to make it exciting, it isn't real.

Exhaustion: Is inner struggle.

Easily Hurt: Your have total choice here. You can be wounded by something another person says or not. It is up to you. Some people live their lives wounded and crushed, it is a way to try to attract attention and sympathy, and to hide from life. This weakness/belief of course will keep you in a deep and pathetic limbo that has nothing to do with growing.

Fantasy: If you live in a fantasy of one day, you are obviously not living in the moment. Your life passes you by and you are constantly disillusioned by your pretend life not becoming a reality.

Feeling Used: Unconscious Habit of helping and attracting people who dont give back. It also has a degree of caretaking or controlling, feeling like its your job to fix other peoples lives. Let go, allow everyone to live their own journey their way, mistakes and all. You only attract what you think you deserve. If you feel used, change your thinking and habits of behavior. Get in touch with and look after you. Pause before jumping in to help others, only go ahead if it is a balanced effort, and you feel balanced within. If there are negative feelings say no.

Frustration: Stuck. Dont want to face what you need to change or take responsibility for. Face up to the challenge you attracted and make a decision and make changes.

Gossip: Is vile and sends the other person and yourself negative energy. It has nothing to do with balance.

Guilt: Is a waste of energy and often misguided. Feel it, resolve it and send it back to ego where it belongs. It wont serve you on any level, it will just take away your happiness and drain you. If you need to ask a persons forgiveness for something you did and you think this will help you both then do that. If it will give them an opportunity to manipulate you then just forgive yourself and send them light instead.

Hatred: There may be people in your life that you think deserve to be hated because of what they did to you or your life. Keeping hatred inside you wont hurt them, but it certainly will hurt you. Look at it this way - how do you want to feel - good or bad, happy or sad, in darkness or in the light. Choose. Every time you feel this destructive emotion send it back to ego, fill your life with light. As you do this you detach from the negative co-creation that you attracted, and you heal yourself - which in turn will fill your life with joy. You take responsibility for your own life now, and choose for it to glow.

It always happens to me: Like attracts like and what you put out comes back. If you decide only bad things happen to you, guess what will happen. Change your thinking, put some effort into it - to change your life, and attract the life and events you desire. Tomorrow is another day, it does not have to be the same as today or yesterday.

Indignant: Everyone's done me wrong. I have a right to be angry at people and write nasty letters. You are in reaction, ego reactions are coded in your cells and you trigger them every time someone does something you dont like, or you feel victimized about. You feel utterly indignant, like how dare they. If you can stand back and recognize this ego safely net that does not serve you, you can come out into the real world and stop attracting these CO-creations.

Impatience: I dont tolerate fools lightly, what does that even mean, who are these fools - maybe anyone who annoys you because you are always impatient. Impatience along with any other reaction can be changed, it is an unconscious behavioral trait. Meditation and calming the mind will cure impatience - along with taking responsibility for your own actions. Some times it is necessary to learn to relax and chill out.

Judgment: We know all judgment is self judgment, no more needs to be said. Look at yourself.

Jealously: Is the same as self pity, negativity and what about me energy. You create your own reality no one else. Congratulate and be joyful for people who have done well. Strive to raise your consciousness above limiting thoughts, as you then send out positive and empowering energy your own life will change and be more successful.

Living in the Past: Just wastes your life. Have the courage to step out of this comfort zone and create a valuable, inspiring and happy now.

Loneliness: This is about walking hand in hand with ego and believing there is no answer. You can let ego win or get off the couch and make your life good. Put the thoughts out for what you want and always follow your intuition when something/anything comes in. Continue to let go of ego thoughts and empower and take back your life. Like attracts like, put it out there.

Laziness: The best way to really annoy someone is to be lazy and expect them to carry you. It gets old fast and is transparent, manipulating and immature. It also involves lies, deception, pretend sickness, disrespect for others and sadness. If you love someone you support them not use them. You get back what you give. Raise your energy and be more respectful and responsible for the life you have created. Live a bigger life.

Meddling: Every one likes their privacy and to chose what to or not to talk about. Some people think they have the right to know every personal detail about your life but of course they dont. Meddling is insensitive and intrusive, it is also disguised aggression and control. If someone asks you something that you think is none of their business - say why do you want to know that, or I dont want to answer that thanks - but quietly, with a smile and in your power. You lose if you take a meddlers questions to heart or are wounded by them.

Not Good Enough: Recognize this as what it is - old programming. All souls are perfect, if you think you are not good enough you are not getting this. Every time you think you are not good enough, immediately say 'that's not true I am perfect'. Every time. Then you will reprogram yourself with the truth about yourself. We are all Source, any other belief is ego, lower consciousness, old programming. Live consciously in the moment and be who you truly are. How you feel is always your choice.

Negativity: It can be an addiction as well as an unconscious habit. Look at what it gives you - nothing good. Change your thoughts and speech to change how you feel. No one wants to be around negative people it takes away the joy, happiness and light. Look on the bright side and take responsibility for your words and feelings, stop being a victim.

Needing Constant Praise: Is about thinking, obviously, that you need to prove you are OK. You can achieve the highest level in your business, profession, sport or calling and be the best you can be. But if you need others to applaud you to feel that you have achieved it then you are missing something. Unconditional love, acceptance and pride comes forth and shines through from the inside out. Celebrate your achievements. You can feel really good when you look outside yourself and praise others.

On An Ego Trip: Ever heard anyone say that, "Oh he's on an ego trip". Generally they are just repeating a well used phrase they dont actually know what it means, short of that person thinks big of themselves, or is showing off. What it really means is that person is in lower consciousness and is displaying one of those traits, which of course is transparent. Any ego trait is a comfort zone or illusionary protection to make the person not feel what they are really feeling, as in not being in touch with their true feelings, which would not feel safe to them at that time that they are triggered off - so they cover them up with transparent, illusionary boasting or self praise.

Parents Triggers: Whatever traits you see in your parents that you dont like, you have within you to some degree. Allow your parents to be on their own level of consciousness as you expect others to allow you to be on yours. You chose your parents and they chose you.

Pain: Is resistance. Letting go of all reasons why your life is hard and it's not fair - will free you from these thoughts and stop it ending up as illness.

Reaction: Is a safe and familiar place to hide in. Reactions are not the real you, they are a smoke screen, you are making your journey hard.

Regrets: Every one has regrets, but dwelling on them for years will not change them in any way, shape or form - you know this. Regrets and the negative energy involved depletes your energy and drains you, it is useless, it gains you nothing on any level. If you feel regret, realize you feel it and that it is keeping you in ego consciousness, send it back to ego on a ray of white light, it is then gone. Now get on with your life with all of your energy working with you, not against you. Regret can be a good way to dump on yourself and feel sorry for yourself. It does not endear you to others.

Selfishness: Oh its all about me. Trust me no one wants to know, if a person constantly praises themselves, uses others for their own needs and gives nothing back it gets old fast. A very good way to end up all alone. You need to give to get, and to create a balanced happy life. Selfish acts may give a momentary fulfillment but they feel empty quickly. Behind empty selfish using is loneliness and emptiness.

Spiritual Judgment: We all, and always, need to support each other with positive thoughts and a clear happy mind. To put someone down who is trying to get the word out there to help others on their spiritual journey is extremely misguided. There is no competition here we are all on the same team. We can all make our own choices, we do have free will, but sending people negative energy because we dont agree with their philosophy, or they trigger us, is self defeating. It is empowering to you to support others, to give praise, recognition and love. It is all about levels of consciousness, what level are you on.

Self Defeating: Is a need to draw attention to self, to attract praise. If you constantly say I am a bad (or whatever) person it is a contrived need for someone to contradict you and say no your not. It is a cry for attention and to gain a feeling of self worth. Empty stuff, better to raise above that and be the powerful person you really are.

Stuck in Ego: Feeling stuck in ego and old stuff is just an excuse to not live in present time, and to take responsibility for your life. It is about blame and its their fault stuff, it's also self pity. Every time you feel yourself stuck in ego you should take a deep breath and just move on. It's your choice your ego doesn't control you.

Sadistic: Enjoying seeing some one fail, in emotional or physical pain. An unconscious need to pay back what may have been done to you. Own it and get rid of it, this negative ego energy is very heavy and harmful to carry.

Self Pity: Is a safety zone, it is an excuse to blame others and not take responsibility for your life. It keeps you in limbo and the years go by. Feeling sorry for yourself will keep you stuck in illusion and in limbo. It gives nothing, receives nothing and drives people away.

Sarcasm: The lowest form of whit. Its not funny, its aggressive and generally a barely veiled insult. Its judgment and its an ego cover up for not liking something about yourself, so you dump on some one else. If you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing, everyone deserves to be treated with respect and love.

Unhappiness: Hay you with the sad face. Sadness is just like self pity it gains you nothing and drives people away. If you feel sad see that and change your energy. You made yourself feel sad, you can make yourself feel happy.

Victimhood: Do you walk hunched over, do you sigh a lot - sure sign that you are victim who has to hold up the world, support everyone, do the work that others are too lazy to do, or dont do it to your standard - and no one gives you your due. You think every one uses you. Generally a victim needs to learn to delegate, but if you give up doing everything then how can you get attention. We all make our own choices, you create your own reality. Try living in your own power instead of scattering your energy, let others do the job their way. Move out of this cluttered, control place (or the kitchen) and into the world. Lighten up and have fun. The thoughts you put out attract back experiences of the same vibration.

Waiting: Waiting for things to happen keeps you living in limbo. The future will happen regardless, you can make plans and set goals in motion - but the best way to create your future as the reality you desire is to live in present time and at Source. If you constantly dwell on the future (as if things will be better then) your energy is fragmented and there will be an inner struggle going on. Living in present time will bring you clarity and strength, from this state of grace new ideas and ways to achieve them will come to you. Also living in the moment grounds you, balances you and allows you to see what is in your world as a reality now. Living in the future is an illusion, it is not real.

 

 

All negative traits rob you of your true power, release them without judgment and live your joy.
We get what we give. What goes out comes back.
Be open to learning new concepts, we are all, and always are, on our journey. Love it.
All negative reactions are based on self-created fear - old programming.
Love yourself without judgment - there is no saint without a past and no sinner without a future.

 

 

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